This is one of the most common requests I get on my website from parents seeking help with their children’s addiction. Many of these children are in their 30’s and 40’s which I always find interesting in that the Mother or Father still refers to them as if they were in their teens or early twenties. This happens because addiction halts a person’s emotional growth so even in their 30’s or 40’s they still act like children in many ways. This attitude of the parent helps the addict who never wants to grow up and accept the consequences of their actions. Year after year, heartache after heartache until all that is left is hopelessness in everyone’s heart. It is hard to accept that they are powerless over their loved one’s addiction.
I always tell the Mother or Father, the same answer; get yourself to an AL ANON or similar meeting and learn about addiction and the way you can help yourself in dealing with your loved one’s addiction. Addiction causes deep emotional and spiritual damage to the entire family.